By the time the child is 6 years old, he already knows perfectly what a lie and a trap is and he also knows how to use it to his advantage. Although it is true that at an early age children can lie for other reasons, such as avoiding adult retaliation, it is after six years when children can lie knowing they are doing it and therefore use traps to be able to win at games. And it is that using traps is almost the same as lying.
Children have great imaginations and do not know the negative consequences that lies have so they think that cheating is not so bad if they get what they want. It is for this reason that parents should place great emphasis on teaching children values such as honesty and trust, values where lying is totally prohibited and totally unacceptable, and if they cheat, other children and adults will not want to play with them. because they will lose confidence.
When children cheat, other children will not want to play with them, they will put them aside and think they are liars. When a child feels the need to cheat, it is because he feels the need to be approved by others (although he achieves the opposite). He thinks that if he cheats and is not caught, then he can win and will be better valued by others. All this shows a great insecurity and lack of self-esteem in his personality.
But not everything is a bad thing since cheating children have other positive parts that must be valued and promoted so that they realize that it is not necessary for them to cheat to be accepted by others. Children who cheat generally have very positive aspects, such as:
- They have great mental capacity. They are able to use their creativity and imagination to be able to cheat. They really are resourceful and can have great dissimulation art.
- They react fast. They are capable of reacting quickly to adversity, a very positive ability that must be strengthened to be able to face anything that comes in life.
- They have good problem solving. The child who cheats has a good ability to solve problems, but must learn to focus on the positive side.
Parents who have children who cheat should see them as children who need parental guidance so that they can better follow the path. In this sense, it is not worth thinking that they lie or that they do not do things well, but rather that the good parts they have must be enhanced so that they themselves realize how well they can do things and thus raise their self-esteem. For example:
- When a child cheats, make him see that others will not want to play with him because the game is no longer fun.
- Teach them values as important as trust and set an example of it every day.
- Find activities for children to learn to play by following instructions and respecting others.
- Teach the children by example. If parents don't want their children to cheat, the last thing they have to do is cheat themselves.
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