When we speak of resentment in adults we know that they are people who may 'forgive' but will not forget what has hurt them emotionally. A person can feel resentment when they have felt betrayed, abused, hurt ... anything that has affected their emotions and made them feel emotional pain, and with children it is exactly the same.
Grudge is a negative feeling which is accompanied by rage, powerlessness, anger, distrust, complaint, resentment, envy, pessimism, fear and many others that will depend on the context in which the child is. Grudge is a disease of the soul that must be cured, so it is very important to teach children to get rid of this burden, and the best way to do it is through forgiveness and self-confidence.
The resentment that a child may feel can be towards anyone around him who has made him feel bad. A spiteful child will adopt the role of victim. To teach the child not to be spiteful you can use the following strategies:
1. Teach by example. If you want your child not to be spiteful, the first step is to teach with your attitude. If you show spiteful behavior towards others, your child will think and understand that it is an appropriate attitude and accepted by his parents, so he will not see any problem in acting in the same way.
2. Teach your child to set limits. Children not only need norms and limits to feel safe within their education, but they must also learn to establish them in their lives towards others. For this, it is very important that your child has enough self-esteem and confidence in himself to say 'no' when he wants to say no. Your child will have to understand that everyone has the right to their own physical and emotional space.
3. Teaches to forgive. There is nothing more liberating than forgiveness, when a child learns to forgive from the heart he will be freeing himself from tensions and anxiety that only hurt him. Forgiveness will help you not feel resentment and release your potential emotional burdens.
4. To write a diary. To learn to forgive others, it is sometimes necessary to write down feelings to shape them. Children have a hard time expressing their emotions, so in addition to helping them express their emotions in words, it is also appropriate that you invite them to express their feelings through drawings or writing a journal (depending on age).
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