There are two things that concern all parents: making children happy and giving them a good education, in every way. To achieve both, limits are very necessary as they serve as a guide for the little ones. But, how can we propose them in a respectful and effective way? We spoke with Marta Prada (Montessori guide, educator of positive discipline families, and author of the book & 39; Educate in happiness & 39;) to tell us what the Montessori method proposes on how to apply limits to children.
Category Limits - Discipline
Being parents is a complicated task and nobody educates us to be one. Having a child means for adults to live with doubts, uncertainties, inaccuracies, etc. Apart from having to deal with interference and the opinion of the environment. Educating our children is a challenge that we want to do our best.
When can we begin to discipline our children? Many parents think that their babies cannot learn or follow certain rules and they relax about enforcing rules at home. When the child is 4 or 5 years old, he has taken control of the situation and changing his attitude or behavior is more difficult.
There are many parenting styles: respectful parenting, positive parenting, democratic parenting, authoritarian parenting, etc. This time we are going to focus on learning more about intensive parenting, since we hear more and more about it. Misused, it can cause overloading children (and with it, anxiety and stress problems), so we give you some keys to take advantage of intensive parenting and benefit from all its advantages.
The word discipline etymologically comes from the Latin & 39; discipulus & 39; and it means imposing a necessary order to be able to carry out learning. In the upbringing and education of children, discipline is not only necessary, but essential. Parents should strive to apply it in the best way so that their children grow up with a healthy and strong self-esteem.
When it comes to managing complex moments with our children, sometimes we can get desperate and look for external agents to support our work, bringing rewards and punishments for children into play. What respectful alternatives does Positive Discipline propose so as not to reward and punish our children and which ones can we incorporate as parents?
Boys and girls need limits to more fully develop their own happiness. And it is that, along with the rules, they are fundamental for their emotional well-being and for the rest of the people with whom they are going to interact. Next we are going to analyze a series of clues that will help us to set limits for children from positive discipline, that is, from kindness and firmness.
Many parents have a hard time saying No to their children, but it is something necessary for a good family life together. Setting limits from values and not from the fact itself avoids overwhelming the child with constant reprimands, but also setting limits for children encourages their safety and improves their self-esteem.
Mutual respect, love, limits, balance, empathy, discipline ... There are certain words that cannot be lacking in the vocabulary that makes up the education of our children. Combining them all and building the best parenting is a very complicated task (and one that we learn every day), however, it is very enriching.
If pedagogues, psychologists and above all teachers agree on something, it is that boys and girls must have clearly defined rules and limits. This shows them the way and lets them know where they can move and how far they must go, without ever stumbling on that path.
There are two things that concern all parents: making children happy and giving them a good education, in every way. To achieve both, limits are very necessary as they serve as a guide for the little ones. But, how can we propose them in a respectful and effective way? We spoke with Marta Prada (Montessori guide, educator of positive discipline families, and author of the book & 39; Educate in happiness & 39;) to tell us what the Montessori method proposes on how to apply limits to children.
Without a doubt, one of our main challenges as parents is to set limits and propose rules to our children and ensure that they respect them while our emotional ties remain strong and stable with them. Of course, as they get older, this task becomes complex and begins to involve more elements than when they are smaller.
One of the most important functions we have as parents is, without a doubt, to set limits for our children. And we like it more or we like it less, the truth is that this parental function when establishing rules is absolutely essential for boys and girls, of all ages, but also the 7-year-olds on whom we focus on this occasion, can develop properly and grow safe, knowing what they can do or how far they can go.
We have arrived with our son at the wonderful age of six. Each time he reaches new goals and matures in every way; He's definitely a & 39; big boy & 39; already. And for this reason, we can share with him new activities, have more structured talks, get off to a good start with homework and school topics and countless other changes.
Many parents fall into the trap of spoiling their children too much and giving them everything they ask for so that they can be happy. Some believe that, otherwise, the little ones could have some kind of trauma in the future that triggers resentment towards parents for not giving & 39; enough affection & 39 ;.
If I asked you what you have done when you have seen the good grades that your son has obtained this term, surely you would tell me to give him something that he is excited about as a reward. And if I told you what did you do when you saw that he has not cleaned his room even though you have told him several times, surely the word punishment is included in your answer.
Being a mother or father represents a major change in one's life. A change not only for parents but also for the baby, the children. They both grow, learn, have to overcome problems and difficulties. For this reason, the baby's first year is a very special stage and very different from the second year, when the little one already begins to take its first steps, to move with more autonomy and to want to try everything.
It seems that the place of the little ones in the society in which we live was less and less clear, that their needs are blurred in the rush in which we all live, and that their development and vitality is slowed down by obstacles that adults themselves put up on their way. To deal with these aspects, I propose conscious parenting, based on the observation of the child and their accompaniment.